By Éva Zsák The day when it all happened was a bit more than five years ago now. In May. May used to be my favourite month of the year, as spring used to be my favourite season. It used to be beautiful. I remember how happy I was on that Continue Reading …
by Lise Hauser When I knew that I wanted to be a midwife, it was because I wanted to care for the women, not because of the babies. I grew up taking care of my mom and my siblings after my dad died. Somehow I never envisioned myself as a Continue Reading …
Editor’s note: Still Mothers and Still Fathers come from all backgrounds, belief-systems, and faiths. We support all families living childless after loss, regardless of personal beliefs. We know there are many paths to healing, and religion can be one. This post shares one of our Still Father’s specific belief system. Continue Reading …
For several years after my first daughter died, every time I looked in the mirror it was like looking at a stranger. I would look at my reflection and think, “I don’t know you. Who are you?” Even now, twelve years Grace’s stillbirth, I still occasionally look at my reflection Continue Reading …
Editor’s Note: This guest post is by a member of our Grieving Your Youngest group for loss mothers with living children, but no baby born after loss. Although Still Mothers’ focus is on families with no living children, we do see the need for resources for families with living children, but no Continue Reading …
Remember when the world held endless possibilities. Remember when dreams could come true. Remember when miracles happen. Remember when we saw the word “pregnant” in a way we never had before. Remember when we fell in love. Remember when we felt blessed. Remember when we felt safe. Remember when we Continue Reading …
“To keep false hopes is to prolong misery.” – Amy Tan Please stop telling me it will happen. Honestly, I don’t want YOUR hope. I know that’s all you’re trying to give me, but I just don’t want it. It’s not because I don’t want more biological children, but they Continue Reading …
By Lindsey S On March 30, 2009, aged 26, I lost my identity and future. My son Desmond was full term stillborn for no ascertainable reason after a textbook pregnancy, or so the medical report tells me. It took years to get to a point of accepting there would be Continue Reading …
We’ve all heard those stupid platitudes: Just keep trying, It’ll happen when the time is right, Your time will come Keep your chin up (what does my posture have to do with anything?) God just needed another angel (then why did he make a baby instead of an angel?) Miracles Continue Reading …
Let yourself cry. Let it out. Sob until you can’t take it anymore. Allow yourself to break down. Wail. Scream. Punch your pillow. Let it out! This is my advice for you, to help yourself heal. This is one of the things that has helped in my healing. A person who Continue Reading …
Editor’s Note: This guest post is by a member of our Grieving Your Youngest group for loss mothers with living children, but no baby born after loss. Although Still Mothers’ focus is on families with no living children, we do see the need for resources for families with living children, but no Continue Reading …
At times, as Still Mothers, it can feel like we’re just waiting around for the next terrible thing to happen. Like we’re constantly on edge because we know exactly what can and does happen all the time to people. (In a word: anything). We’ve realized that we don’t have control over our Continue Reading …
I am continually surprised at just when and how the effects of grief and loss suddenly pop up and knock me off my feet, even after so many years of living with it. A simple rear-ending. Someone got distracted and hit me from behind. Well, my third hit from behind Continue Reading …
One of my biggest obstacles since losing my son a year ago is the feelings of jealousy. I’m jealous of women who are pregnant, because they are excited about the future and have a precious miracle growing inside them. I’m jealous of women who aren’t ready to try for children Continue Reading …
